Remember when you were a child/pre teen and you would compare yourself to someone else, and your mother (or who ever) would tell you not to? Well… Sometimes it’s still hard not to.
The way I look at motherhood, is that there are two kinds of moms out there; good moms and great moms. And there is a difference my friends, oh yes… there is a difference.
A good mom will put on a show for you. She’ll act like everything is all right on the outside, but on the inside, she’s a mess. Just like a lot of us. She covers up her feelings with good intentions and helpful tips, but doesn’t realize that unwarranted advice can be the kiss of death. But she cares. A lot. A good mom keeps on going and doesn’t stop until she reaches the finishline. She tells you that everything will “be okay” but even she knows that it’s not really a true statement at all. She will be your shoulder to cry on and your biggest fan, but at the same time, she’ll be freaking out on the inside because secretly she’s going through some of the same things that you are as well. She just won’t realize it yet or admit to it. Denial is a friendly stranger who lurks, but she’ll fluff it off with an excuse. She cares. Deeply. She loves. Deeply. She is a fantastic mom who would do just about anything for her child. She is kind without a reason and would give you the shirt off of her back. She expects nothing in return.
A great mom admits defeat. She knows when she’s reached her limit and openly admits to waving her little white flag. She asks for help. She doesn’t keep her emotions bottled up inside her, and she might be a ticking time bomb at times, but she has a support system that keeps her grounded. She can be a bit disorganized at times, but you know what? It’s ok. A great mom will forfeit making dinner every once in a while and order a mid week pizza because spending time with her kid/s is more important. She has an identity other than “mom.” She doesn’t care if she looks a bit disheveled on occasion, or if she can’t remember the last time she went to the gym. She is honest, creative, and thoughtful. She cares. Deeply. She loves. Deeply. She is you.
So, which one are you? A good mom, a great mom, or both?