Did you ever notice your own comfort level when your around certain people? For example, you feel perfectly comfortable around your best friends or your family, but less comfortable around certain friends and some family members. It’s just something I’ve started to notice about myself over the past couple of years.
I’ll give you a personal example: When we go to my fabulous friend J’s house, Willy likes to haul rocks to the top of the play house of his best girl E’s swing set. When you ask him what he’s doing, he’ll reenact the scene from the movie Frozen where Christoph brings Princess Anna to meet his family. It’s almost too cute for words, but I don’t think that would be accepted at anyone else’s house. I could be wrong, but I don’t think I am. They would probably wonder if he’ll put the rocks back or if we’ll leave the rocks for them to clean up, or worse, they’ll just think that it’s strange that a five year old boy is “playing Frozen.” I, on the other hand love it! It’s just my boy being his delicious self.
The rules are just different I guess. It pretty much comes down to what’s accepted and what’s not by certain peoples standards.
It’s true, sadly.
But then there are those who love and accept you and your child just for being your sweet selves. There’s no explanation needed when your child does something or says something out of the ordinary, or behaves in a way that is less than acceptable. And those are the people that you need to surround yourself with. The ones who don’t bat an eyelash when something undesirable happens… because they get it. THANK GOD!
I should probably tell you that nothing in particular sparked this post, but what I want my sped. parents to know and understand, is that a little reminder, every now and then goes a long, long way. You need to know that as sad and as rote as stupid apologies can be for your child pushing another child on the playground, or their child cutting your child in line for something, your actually teaching them a lesson.
You are teaching parents who are or feel offended by your child’s actions, tolerance. That’s right. TOLERANCE. Tolerance comes in all shapes and sizes, but being the bigger person in every situation will carry you a long way. It’ll show the accusers that you understand your child’s quirks and accept them for who they are. And the fact that that you are standing up for your child with confidence and ease might even get you an apology in return.
So, how do ya like them apples?
TGIF my friends. Have a good weekend, enjoy the start of football season, and if you can, share your wealth of knowledge to someone who could use it… just don’t go looking for trouble, okay? 😉